LOST & FOUND

‘Friends in need is friends indeed’. “Vyavaharen mitrani jayante”. There are many more sayings & proverbs that defines the virtues & values of friendship. The true bondage of friendships since the period of schooling & college everlast till the fag end of life; in some cases continuously and in few cases recovered & found after years of untraceable, oblivious, on the fringe, out of mind for various reasons & considerations most commonly in the journey of struggling, rigorous, toiling to shape up one's career, entering into a new phase of life taking new challenges in various & varied given circumstances. Then comes the shouldering & sharing family responsibilities, serving age-old parents, marriage, children, increased & multiplied family relations thus finding & keeping balances amongst so many fronts coming one after another or simultaneously all equally important requiring full, part attention proportionately. With new relations both at work & family, the importance of old friends sometimes takes back seat, making the matter of past & confined to memory in some corner of head & heart although in some cases the friends & friendships carry on based upon the necessity, availability, proximity, vicinity, etc. 

However, in some cases as all are bound to be scattered in different parts for the higher studies, to fetch or crack the best possible opportunities as per the qualifications, talents, circumstances, choices & compulsions. To adjust & accommodate & cope up in a new situation is always a challenge for one & all once one steps out from the respective houses, out of clutches of guardians as birds in the sky with dreams & dilemmas, for the next unpredictable, unforeseen phase of life, fruitful & defining the fate of the rest of life accordingly. All have their own particular abilities, constraints, limits to face & react with such new situations, forays & domains; some excels, some struggles for various reasons. Some get & achieve their goals & target in their surroundings, vicinity, within the same setup or others, planned or accidental. I came I saw I conquered is just an exception to the predominant rules of passing through rough & tough patches & phases to attain, earn stability of life. Sometimes the adage merit has its own rewards pays well but on many times luck & destiny plays crucial, pivotal roles depending upon the respective inputs, resources, focus, unexpected output, outer forces beyond one control & limits etc. 

Hard work & sincerity always pays is the proven mantras but dreams, ambition short of efforts & endeavors get the distracted, deviated & unwanted result for some is equally true. It’s a crude fact that all born & brought up in the same place in almost similar background irrespective of caste, creed, sect, etc though of different caliber, capacity and strata finds their places of absorbents differently. Many of us have earned the present post, position & stature giving all of us reason to be proud & boast, bringing galore, flourishing but some of us though deserved best or better had to settle for the good to survive, sustain & scale the heights of life & liabilities in limited peripheries & resources skillfully with adept, agile, ability & adaptability. 

Adversities bring the best potential out of one in life and rebellious has given best to the Society are undisputed proven facts. But the purity, scale, beauty of friendship, wavelengths, telepathies, empathies, emotions remain the same that defines & determine the extent of bondage & longevity of such friendships which otherwise is above & without any consideration, unprejudiced engulfing & filliping the differences, graphs of life; Zenith & Nadir, nods & antinodes. Like in a garden there are various kinds of flowers that blossom with its varieties of beauties, attractions, fragrances, utilities. The goals & ambitions, posts & positions in professional life may be different which is guided by the respective suitabilities, comfort abilities, compulsions & compromises but the friendship despite passing years & years the feelings, emotions, sentiments, bondage remains the same though cannot be fathomed, exhibited, demonstrated & maintained due to paucity of time, distances, family and professional pressure, priorities, commitments & compulsions. 

The bitterness in friendship temporarily due to some factors including academic competitiveness may prevail for the time being but the niceties, melodies & melancholies of such relations persist, continues despite all conflicts, contradictions, presentations, show-offs, egos & complexes. Sometimes such sense & conscious of competitiveness nurtures as healthy for betterments yet another time it sours & harbors for no good rather elusive, confusing, misconceived, prejudiced forever based upon habits, behaviors, ideological, social, political differences both at core & fore. Despite all odds & adversities once the tunes & tones of friendship is set, it sees & sails the rough weathers, troubled waters passing the litmus tests of time & tide, endurance, endeavors smoothly based upon the simple rule of practicality above all relations to come & maintain forever. 

As the family & professional responsibilities are settled, takes a pace & peace with sojourn, the vicious circle of life takes a u-turn, memory sharpens, the clock goes back, desperations to find those friends of yore & yesteryears with whom one has studied, played, roamed & wandered around, whether in the agreement or differences over issues arguably, under the care & cost of guardians having plenty of sweet memories, some yet new facts to share, to know the whereabouts, fillip the gap, feelings of past & present sagas, status & responsibilities all innocently, novice & naively as childish, crazy, curious, voracious & vociferous as ever for one another, reminding many stories & incidents of past; mischievous, stunning, embarrassing whatsoever as fresh as ever. 

Such pious relations share the sorrows & sweetness of life unconditionally, unhesitatingly expecting nothing materialistically rather only best wishes & advice for one another wherever they live for livelihood but ready & rousing at high time & occasion. With such interactions one forgets the present agonies of life, tensions & traumas both at home & at work, lost in time, the past & passed times, scratching, rekindling the faded fondling memories, soothing to life works as positive the catalyst as if to have rejuvenated, regained & retained the lost energy, glory, the reason for the remaining part of life to live afresh longing, relishing to maintain it with the same aura, ferocity & fervor with self-commitment, recharged, augmenting to run through the rest roads of life till it last & eyes close forever. 

Exceptionally, just for the case of aberration, there have been instances when in the guise & garb of friendship plotting & painting indifferently malafidely and/or jealously have dragged, stabbed, cheated, defamed, malice the friends for their own benefit, satisfaction blotting & bringing the friendship in disrepute unprecedently, invariably which is not acceptable at all rather we need to be a vigil to identify, ignore & isolate them being highly deplorable & condemnable from all angles. Being it universally true affirmatively, assertively & appreciatively dedicated to all friends, in the name of & for the sake of friendships around the year not to celebrate for a day only.

Written By:
Advocate Ranjay Kumar Sinha
(www.advocatesinha.com/)